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Does Wanking make my cock bigger?

Question -Does masturbation increase penis size? I want to increase my penis size, but I don’t have any money. Do you think its still possible to increase my penis size if I am in my mid-30s?

Answer -Masturbation does not increase penis size, and neither do pumps or any other equipment. Save your money. A cock ring and a pump may help your penis be harder as it fills with more blood, but overall length will not change. Surgery is expensive, full of complications and not recommended for men larger than three and a half inches when hard.

I want a condom for oral.

Question -Im HIV negative. My boyfriend is HIV positive. He performs oral sex on me. I want to do the same on him but I will only do it with a condom. How do I tell him?

Answer - The same way you are telling us. Let him know how you feel about him and how much you want to please him. Explain to him that you do not want to catch HIV, but that doesn’t mean you won’t have sex with him either. You need to openly discuss boundaries with him.

Tell him what you are willing to do sexually and see how he responds. It might be fine with him. Its important that both of you are sexually satisfied. If he feels your limitations will prevent his satisfaction, then he needs to know this and decide whether he wants to find someone else. You must be honest with each other and understand your limitations as well as his.

Question - I have a b/f and we have been together for about four years, but about six months ago I started seeing someone else. I didn’t mean it to happen and at I thought it was just going to be a one night stand, but somehow one thing led to another and now the guy I’m seeing says he wants to have a proper relationship. I feel the same way- I really like him, the sex is great and I want to be able to spend a lot more time with him. I don’t think my b/f is aware that anything’s been going on and I think he will really be devastated when he finds out. I feel really guilty about this and Im not a bad person really, although it probably sounds like that. Is there a way I can finish with him so it’s not as difficult and painful as it might be?

Answer - I believe you when you say you are not a bad person. People grow and change and often couples grow apart, interests change and love fades. Its sad but it doesn’t make one who stopped loving a bad person.

Talk to him before you talk to the rest of the world. It wont help if he feels like hes the last one to know. If you are sure its really over, don’t give him hope that its flexible. A clean break will be easier for him in a long run. Don’t expect that you will be able to carry on your friendship, you have betrayed him and hes got every reason to not to consider you his friend.

Question - Boy's big cock hurts- help!

I'm usually the bottom in my relationship but haven't been enjoying getting fucked. My boyfriend's penis is large and thick and uncut and when we have sex, I feel uncomfortable, sore, and just want to get it over with.

I often use enemas before sex. Can enemas (in this case a saline solution one), be causing this discomfort? I did not have this pain before I started having sex with my boyfriend. What's going on with me?

Answer - Iam sorry that you are having all the difficulty and not able to enjoy anal sex. first of all, enemas (water or saline) can be very irritating. They cause inflammation and have been implicated in increased transmission of HIV. I would tell you to stop enemas.
Also it could be the lubricant or not enough lubricant. Try different lubricants- ones without nonoxynol-9, non-flavoured and non-perfumed varieties.

See it one is better than the others. It could also be that your partner is just too big or too rough and that he is causing you little tears that burn and make sex not enjoyable. I would suggest that you try a small dildo (smaller than your partner). Insert it and see if it causes you the same discomfort. If it does then it might be that you are too tight. Anal sex isn't for everyone. If the dildo is fine then try a little larger dildo and work up to something the size of your partner. This will gradually stretch the muscle and hopefully you will ultimately be able to enjoy your partner.

Here is one last bit of advice: don't touch your penis or let him touch your penis while trying to penetrate you. That tightens the anal muscle making penetration more difficult and making it more likely to tear you. Once he's inside you it's fine to touch all you want.

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