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A boyfriend
Meeting someone and having a go at being boyfriends isn't
always easy. Relationships change and develop over time and if you know
what those stages are, then you have a better chance of making a go if
it or knowing when its time to walk away.
Stage one Yowser
Timing: anywhere from date one up to three
months. Stage one is the lovely-dovey, gooey stage. You're reacting to
primal instincts from your heart and groin. Where and how you met is a
constant topic of conversation.
Sex: The only time you stop having it is when you lie back in
each other's arms and talk about 'us'.
Keeping it going: Treat your date the way you would like to be
treated. Be yourself as much as possible. Don't push for 'intimacy' too
soon.
Check for: Chemistry- does it feel right? Dou you lust after, and
like them? Stage Two
Everything is lovely
Timing: around two to six months into
the relationship. Stage two is the "lovely stage." You know enough about
him to feel you know him well and you don't see all his 'faults' yet.
You both do everything you can to fit together.
Sex: It's still fun, fresh and frenetic, just slightly less often
than it was.
Keeping it going: Let your heart rule your head, but don't make
any rash moves or long term promises.
Check for: Compatibility- do you share lots of similar interests,
look at life the same way? Stage Three
"We are a couple"
Timing: three to six months. This is
when the just you together time expands, and starts to include friends
and family. They've met him before, now they are looking at him( and his
at you) with new eyes as you are now 'a couple'. You are beginning to
get realistic about each other and start dropping the 'best behaviour'
acts. Arguments or disagreements are more likely
to start in this stage as you both feel safe enough to expose your not
so loveable sides and start questioning each others opinion's and
judgements on things that really matter. Sometimes this is as far as
you'll get. If there are too many differences it may be better to
separate.
Sex: Sex shifts from lusty all over the place stuff, to a more
loving, intensely romantic stage.
Keeping it going: Don't panic when things are not perfect. Get
used to the 'real' person and you'll probably make it through this
stage. If it's obvious he's not right for you, or you are not right for
each other, then it's time to go your separate ways.
Check for: Timing -are you both ready for, and want , a long-term
relationship? Because thats where it's headed. |
